my aunt says we can change. we really can, if we try.
chris has always said people don't change.
i think i believe my aunt, but it really takes a lot. people don't just change inadvertently in a drastic way. it often takes something, something big, to make a person change. it's different for everyone. for some it may take being in love to truly change. maybe a person would do something for their loved one that they would never have done before. for some it may be falling out of love that makes them change, for others having their heart broken may be the trigger. for still others love may not enough. maybe it's money that motivates them. often, the desire to not be like one's parents can motivate someone to change, as can the desire to have a different path in life than what they foresee for themselves. i wonder if to change it takes something so big that you just crack and you really decide you cannot be the same as you have been. no. reading that sentence over again i can say that people do also change gradually, without noticing it.
i guess there's a difference in the two, though. changing because you want to versus changing inadvertently. the latter takes no effort whatsoever, whereas the former really takes strength, determination, and the ability to realize what it is you need or want to change. some people are too lazy or too immature to change, and this is where chris is right. there are also those who are arrogant, cocky and self-absorbed, who are too high up on the pedestal on which they put themselves to ever believe they need to change. but there are those who, whether accidentally or on purpose, see past themselves, see past the way things have been, the way theyhave been, and want to strive to grow. it's these people that really have to commit to being what they want to be and not what they are. i guess the steps are:
1. acknowledging you need to change
2. realizing exactly what it is you want to change
3. committing to changing
4. figuring out how to change yourself
5. doing it
*****
Most importantly, I have to find my niche. Or get a hobby, like join a choir or something.
chris has always said people don't change.
i think i believe my aunt, but it really takes a lot. people don't just change inadvertently in a drastic way. it often takes something, something big, to make a person change. it's different for everyone. for some it may take being in love to truly change. maybe a person would do something for their loved one that they would never have done before. for some it may be falling out of love that makes them change, for others having their heart broken may be the trigger. for still others love may not enough. maybe it's money that motivates them. often, the desire to not be like one's parents can motivate someone to change, as can the desire to have a different path in life than what they foresee for themselves. i wonder if to change it takes something so big that you just crack and you really decide you cannot be the same as you have been. no. reading that sentence over again i can say that people do also change gradually, without noticing it.
i guess there's a difference in the two, though. changing because you want to versus changing inadvertently. the latter takes no effort whatsoever, whereas the former really takes strength, determination, and the ability to realize what it is you need or want to change. some people are too lazy or too immature to change, and this is where chris is right. there are also those who are arrogant, cocky and self-absorbed, who are too high up on the pedestal on which they put themselves to ever believe they need to change. but there are those who, whether accidentally or on purpose, see past themselves, see past the way things have been, the way theyhave been, and want to strive to grow. it's these people that really have to commit to being what they want to be and not what they are. i guess the steps are:
1. acknowledging you need to change
2. realizing exactly what it is you want to change
3. committing to changing
4. figuring out how to change yourself
5. doing it
*****
Most importantly, I have to find my niche. Or get a hobby, like join a choir or something.
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